· Unresolved family issues
· Mental Filters → misperceptions → creates a predilection for rejection
Temperament
· Hypersensitivity
· Child is highly sensitive, gets easily hurt, internalizes the hurt feelings, and then disconnects or detaches from his/her parent(s) → Defensive Detachment. Child’s perception of rejection becomes his or her reality.
· High maintenance
· By nature, the child needs more attention and physical affection.
· Artistic nature
· Gifted artistically and may be mocked or criticized by parents and others.
· Gender non-conforming behavior
· Male more feminine/Female more masculine
These character traits - (or behavioral phenotype) the more effeminate boy and more masculine girl - in certain environments are expressed with the purpose to invoke a reparative drive, that is, a child seeking to successfully bond with his or her same-gender parent, and thus not to invoke a "gay" identity. When this drive for bonding is achieved, the child will have a healthy attachment with his or her same-sex parent and secure gender identity will ensue. Therefore, in this model, these gender non-conforming character traits may represent underlying genetically (genotype) driven characteristics that result in the behavioral phenotype that invokes the reparative drive. The environment that may well induce these traits are generational detachment between fathers and sons and mothers and daughters. [Explanation by Dr. Paul Miller and Richard Cohen]
